It was about being strong ~ Now it’s about being honest

                       

It’s no longer about having to keep it together and having to present an image to the world...  a facade, your mask that says I’m good, I’ve got this…

It’s about discovering how to let go…
of every thing and every way you thought you needed to be...
of every thing you think you need…
 
It’s about realizing that the things you hold on to for safety…
really aren't keeping you safe.

Love ~ God ~ The Divine  ~ The Force ~ Our True Nature
Is our True Source 

We are waking up from a dream…
That we have worked and played so hard to keep intact
 
Letting go, surrendering…
 creating space for what wants to arise and grow and shine in you now…      

It's more like 

Holding On AND Letting Go
             are happening at the same time    

Breathing         Baby Steps    

Now there is space for this New...  For this very Truth of You
This Kernel of Light that has always been there...
It Is Time and It Is Happening

It feels like fire and destruction... It is
And all is held in a forcefield of 

FIERCE AND COMPASSIONATE LOVE

It is Time. The door is opening… See that it is not you that is opening the door. It is being opened... Breathe Gently as you realize this…  The door is opening now and you are looking around in the basement of your life… where you have put so much stuff!  I know many of us have been clearing for awhile... and now we are going deeper and into the hidden places that want to be cleared out too.  Ah, this wild crazy human existence… 
                      
So much stuff that covers our hearts… that closed the door to your heart

Come to the sea and surrender it all.    Breathe...  Allow
Allow and Receive what the sea brings back to you on the next wave

 ~Holding Tight AND Letting Go~ 
 Its okay to do it this way... 

We are not the stories we have constructed about ourselves… not this persona

We are being washed.  Breathe   Allow

We are being cleansed and purified in the Fire.   Breathe    Allow    Open

 We are LOVE
WE ARE THAT LOVE          WE ARE THIS LOVE

We are LOVE playing in form

We are LOVE weaving itself, delightfully dancing with itself here

 LOVE

LOVE    I AM Love    You Are Love    We Are Love    LOVE 

Hear the whispers in every cell of your body... awakening, stretching into 

The very Truth of You.   Remember~  I AM calling you Home  

YOU ARE LOVE       I AM LOVE

 Let it burn...  let the fire of LOVE burn away all the delusions and illusions it created.  It is happening… all the pain is coming up now because it is ready to be burned up.  We are being consumed by the fire of LOVE.     

Allow…    Holding Tight WHILE Letting Go -
YOU ARE PERFECT

I AM in Love With You

Transmission through Miri Klements 3/5/16

Kindness For Everyone Else,  Except Me

It is so easy and natural to be kind and available for someone who is in pain...  to be compassionate with someone else’s wounds and traumas… Yet when it came to being tender, loving, generous, patient, compassionate with my self, my wounds, my own traumas… How easily I dismissed my self.  How impatient I was when I spoke to my self. How lacking in compassion I was with my self… How unkind I was with me.

About 15 years ago Spirit stopped me and showed me that in spite of my desires to transcend all my pain and suffering ...  I had to to come back … to all the parts and pieces and feelings that I had pushed under the rug because I didn’t know how to be with them before... didn’t have the support needed to do things differently at the time… 

I had disconnected from, rejected these parts of my self... and moved on, or so I thought.

"I'm good.  I'm fine. I got it covered," was my mask to the world, and to my self!                                         

And then the time came when I had to turn back and find the way to be with these parts, these feelings… to accept my self…  all the parts I didn’t like, felt ashamed of, hated, was scared of facing... 

I had to come back to the basics in order to truly and completely heal – self acceptance, self kindness, self compassion, self forgiveness. 

I remember finding Byron Katie’s Book – ‘Loving What Is.’ You must be kidding… ‘Loving What Is!’  I scoffed at the title. I can barely acknowledge and accept what I see in me… what is now starting to bubble up from under the rug where I had pushed everything.

I surely couldn't love what was showing up... and so I began much more simply, and with something I could do:  I began with Noticing what was showing up... and breathing deeply over and over so I could stay with this new practice of noticing without running away...

Noticing became Acknowledging … acknowledging what was present with as much honesty as I could muster.  This lives in me…  It was so hard to see my self honestly because I had been able to avoid a lot by shoving it down and disconnecting… and so much shame was coming up along with all these patterns, patterns that actually had helped me to cope... these patterns that I now saw were keeping me stuck and disconnected - from life.

Then Allowing gently showed Herself… Allowing mixed with drops of gentleness for my wounds, difficult emotions and traumas...

The Noticing

The Acknowledging of what was truly there

The Allowing as best I could opened the gates of Acceptance... 

An Acceptance for what was showing up along with a deep kindness, gentleness, compassion towards my self… for the parts of me that were suffering and in pain...   
Unconditional Acceptance

The mean, curt, annoyed, pushy voices in my head that were never satisfied, always condemning... changed to voices that now say "It’s okay sweet angel.  What do you need?  What would you like My Beloved?" 

I began to speak to my self as I would speak to a young innocent child in pain, a child in need, a child who was suffering…  And I finally began to give to my self, and continue to give my self the attention, the acknowledgment, the acceptance, the compassion and generosity I had given to everyone else.

Honestly, I was kind of shocked with my self... with my ability to be present, to become this Loving Understanding Presence to the wounded frightened parts of me… that allowed me to feel so much better inside... and with my self…  Self Acceptance is Powerful...
and I have even more love, kindness and compassion to give to others… to the world.

Now how does it get even better than this!!

Do you feel the Calling... to stop talking to your self, judging and treating your self as you do?  Are you called to begin to open your heart to your Self... because somehow you know that these missing pieces of Self Acceptance and Self Compassion will change everything - your relationships, prosperity, health, feelings of worthiness... yes, everything.

Maybe it’s hard to know where to begin, how to begin…

I can help… because I’ve walked the path.  I know how to get to the other side and I want to hold up the Light for you, to help you remember how to tap into your own innate abilities for Self Compassion, Self Acceptance.  Yes, these are your birthright…
 
Please join me as we Open The Heart of Compassion for Our Selves -             **Workshop in Charlotte details below OR watch for the Webinar coming soon OR schedule your Complimentary Phone Consultation by clicking here to email Miri now

A Workshop For

Self Kindness ~ Self Acceptance

Self Love 

Join us for an afternoon of Gentle Heart Opening Dialogue, Teaching, Meditation, Music and Art that allows for the Warmth and Compassion of your own heart to begin to thaw the frozen places inside your self.                                                                           ~ Welcome Home ~  

When:  Saturday, February 27,  2-5pm
Where:  Body Mind Shift Wellness Center 5200 Park Rd,  Suite 213,  Charlotte
Cost:     $65.
Please click here to email Miri now to register for the workshop 

Big HeartHugs,
Miri

I Can't.  YES I CAN!!!

Mercury Retrograde has completed.  Hallelujah!                                                         

My ego mind is relieved to feel some lightness and movement.Once again I have energy to do things… and even though I remind my self that everything is always in motion and in support of my highest good – my personality/ego doesn’t like how 'it' feels stuck and stalled.  It’s like a traffic jam and you’re just sitting and waiting… 

And how do I love my impatience?  I have several practices for opening my heart.  I've just added Ho'oponopono.  So I settle into my heart chakra and I gently say to this feeling of impatience -  I’m sorry.  Please forgive me. I love you. Thank you.   Ah…. The body begins to soften.                                                                                                  

Noticing my patterns has become my practice.  You can’t change what you don’t acknowledge…  Everything eventually must come out of the dark buried places within us ... and into the Light.  When I first started to notice my patterns, I honestly wanted to run away and reject them again… Oh my goddess; this can’t be me! 

Now… I actually welcome the opportunity to clearly see my patterns, my thoughts and beliefs that keep me in painful limitations, locked up in her/history …   I allow them to come forth ... to my softening, opening heart. 

I notice that the beliefs and thoughts that keep me down are often quite subtle.  I don’t even hear them.  But they are there, running… and they affect my feelings and my actions. 

It’s not Lent  ... and I’m giving up these two words - I CAN'T.

Actually I’m giving up the whole package labeled “I CAN'T.” It’s more like a virus because it infiltrates my life in so many ways and keeps me from moving forward, taking risks, taking the next step, moving into the Miracle Zone.                                                                                                                                                                “I can’t.’   I actually don’t hear it so much as I feel it... and it holds me back… It's me saying ‘no’ to life... automatic reaction... without thinking…  I don’t start a project.  I don’t complete a project.  I stay in, instead of going out.  I delay reaching out to the new person I met.  I don't write that letter. I don’t make that phone call. I don't spontaneously call to say I love you to the people that matter to me when I feel the urge to. I close my heart and turn away...

It’s all about “I can’t”… It’s so unconscious.  I can't becomes all the things I don't do... saying no to life.  It’s a habit and a virus and I’m done with it!

I CAN!  I CAN! YES!  YES I CAN!!

I could write forever about the different ways we unconsciously believe      I Can't, and how it runs our lives and limits us.  

   I can’t change.      I can’t afford that.    I can’t do that; it's not me.           I can't go.      I can't stay.    I can't ask for that.    I can't apologize.    

I CAN     I CAN     I CAN     I CAN     I CAN     I CAN     I CAN     I CAN      

I Can do this!   I CAN have that!   I CAN be like this!   I CAN say that!  I can do amazing things!   I CAN speak up!   I CAN write that book!  I CAN let go and move on.  I CAN have these feelings, because I already do.   

I CAN have what I want!  I Can Be Who I AM!!

We need to stop limiting ourselves. These new energies have brought new wonderful possibilities.  Put down the stop sign. Welcome to the buffet table.  What would you like? I love that we can create new habits, new neural pathways by simply choosing and doing things differently. Like building muscle, repetition strengthens them and puts them in place.  It is that simple! 
                                                YES YOU CAN

You can accept and love your self in spite of ______________

It’s a new moment    Breathe    Smile    Love Your Self     More   Breathe again    Smile    Hug Your Self   

I wrote a Blog about just doing one thing differently…  If you run a certain route every time, run a different way.  Take a new route to work.  Go to a new place for lunch.  If you're always late, be early. When you're thinking about how you can't - stop and say "Yes I can" and do it.  Start by changing just one thing and you’ll actually begin to feel differently.  The patterns of our lives need to break apart.  New energies are waiting to come in. Create the space for them.   Do something different.                        Smile!  You are Loved!   I Love You!                                                                HeartHugs,                                                                                                            Miri                                                                                         

Miri is a Pioneer in Self Compassion and Self Acceptance
If you feel stuck and know you want to do things differently this year, 
I have 3 open slots for FREE Consultations next week.  
please click here to email me for yours.  

A Different Way to Get Exactly What You Need in 2016 Without Writing Your Lists and Goals             

If goal setting for the New Year no longer resonates for you and you wonder if there isn't another way to come to the Peace, Fulfillment, Partner, Job, Love, Joy you crave, try this: 

 Surrender

Truth is, most of us have actually not been successful with our New Year Goals and Resolutions in the past.  After just a few weeks, we fall short of staying committed and then we begin to beat ourselves up and shame ourselves... 

I want to offer you something radically different for 2016 in place of setting goals and making your list...

Surrender, Yes, Surrender

I know you have situations, struggles, pain, people, relationships that you want to change, that have not been working … things you hate about your self that you want to overcome ...

We are taught to 'take charge' and to create our list, to state our intentions for the New Year ... to find ’the perfect words' and 'right' way to do this … so that the outcomes 'you' want and the changes you want to make in your behavior (aka I can't stand this about my self for one more second!) can happen. It doesn't work...  

Instead, I invite you to experience this visualization (written for you below) to clear the slate and create the space for the New Year. Most believe in a Higher Power - God, Consciousness, I AM, Spirit.  You're not really in charge.  You don't really make it happen. Your Higher Self, Soul, God already knows exactly what you need in order to bring you into greater alignment with Love... with Peace... to bring you fulfillment...  
I have come to this place of Surrender after many, many years of thinking it is my job to do, to control, to figure things out… to make resolutions… to ‘take charge’ of my life. 
         
Finally, I see.  I see that I do not know how to make things happen. Do you really know how?  How well have you done? 

I do not really know how to ‘release’ and get over my issues, my stuff, the people in my life that continue to make me feel less than, awful, unworthy and confused.  I want to say 'I release and I'm done' – and have it all disappear. Or 'I intend' and have 'the job or the partner' appear.  It doesn’t honestly seem to work that way… (be honest now). 
It's because we are begging and conniving and we have not been taught how to be truly honest with our selves ... We do what we're taught - and we set goals from our egos.   

                                                                                 
I know what I need to make me happy, fulfilled…  I will get a new job by March, have a different partner in my life. We make that list of the things we want to have or achieve.  I’ll be happy, feel good about my self or I'll accept and love my self when_____ 

Surrender 

Do something different this year.  Make room for your Soul.    

Create the space and Allow for Your Higher Self, God, Spirit to bring you exactly what you need, what is truly in your highest good and what will ultimately bring you the greatest blessings and peace.   This is the way Beloved.  "I do not know what is in my Highest Good. And you- I Am, Spirit, God-  do know.  I surrender this mess to you.  I ask for a new perspective so that I might have peace in my heart regardless of what is going on.

I surrender this issue of _____to you.  I thank you, I am Grateful now, knowing that you always bring me exactly what I need, the people I need to meet, the home, the job I need to be in … that is perfect for me, so that I can fulfill my Soul’s longing for this lifetime" 

"Thy Will be done, not my will.”   This means not the will of your human ego that does not see the bigger picture of your life….

You are Blessed and Loved

     Already~ Now~ Evermore~   

  

*Guided Visualization for Your Surrender*   

It is a warm spring day.  Imagine yourself at the ocean’s edge.  Take a few deep breaths as you watch the waves.  Feel the warm breeze and the sunshine on your skin.  Feel your breathing slowing down, entraining with the waves.  Relax and Be here. 

Think of your top 3 issues and goals and declare:

“I do not know what this is about.  I do not know what this is for or why it is happening this way. I do not know how to fix this.  I do not know what is best for me now. I surrender and give this to You…  

Imagine your self offering your struggles to the Ocean … as though you were truly giving it all to God.  Imagine that you are holding it all in your hands and gently pour it into the ocean. Surrender ... 

Surrender to the waves, to the ocean.  Breathe

Then take some moments and allow your self to be nourished by the warm sunshine.  Imagine this potent, powerful loving nourishing Light filling you and warming you everywhere. Breathe and receive The Light.

And then over the next few days and weeks see what comes back to you ... how you or the situation are changed ....

Do your best to not think about your issues.   Instead occupy your self with the things that bring you Joy.  Sing to your self, connect with nature.  Smile at your self when you start trying to figure things out. Smile and go back to the surrender with the thoughts:  'I give it all to you.  I trust you.  You know what is best for me.  Thank you.' 

See what comes to you over the next few weeks in Divine Perfect Timing.

You are not in charge. 

Surrender to The One Who Knows exactly what you need and

Who Loves You Unconditionally and Without End

Remember, do your best to not ponder or take back control  : -)  

Can you feel the peace already ... allow, trust, let go and surrender to The One

____________________________________________________

I am a Pioneer in Self Compassion and Self Acceptance

If you feel stuck and want to do things differently, please click here  to email me and schedule a Complimentary Consultation.                                                     

Follow up to Blue Moon Energies of July 31~

You're not alone if the post Blue Moon energies have you feeling off, different, misunderstood and/or extremely emotional .... Someone said she felt 'slammed' by the energies .....

The interpretations for these energies were so positive and upbeat! Wow!
Big changes and opportunities await us ~

And the big changes and opportunities require MORE of the deep inner work so we can heal and move forward ...

I've experienced my own core issues and woundings coming up again. I know some of you feel like you've already dealt with what is showing up..... remember our issues are layered......allow the next layers to come up for reconciliation..... reconciliation in the only place this can happen - in our very own hearts.

Maybe you are seeing that this is the time for you to deal with what you have tried to deny for so long..... Please be gentle with your self.... you haven't done it wrong.... you're not alone.... Many report feeling very 'lost' and overwhelmed during this period of deep opportunity and healing. Reach out for support...

My Quick Tip to Help You Release Stress and Quiet the Mind - Take a pause of at least 20 seconds..... Bring your attention to your breathing by focusing on the rising and falling of your chest without efforting in any way. (Imagine your self as a curious child - watching your chest rise and fall......) The whole time just observe how your chest rises and falls with your breath. Do this any time you feel distressed during the day. Notice that you cannot think and focus on the rising and falling of your chest at the same time. At some point you may shift to inhaling to the count of 5, exhaling to the count of 7....easily, gently.

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The Key for my inner work now is Honesty ~ about what is arising in my life now.... as more of my shadow.....as more of the parts of me that I've denied and rejected and judged ..... are coming up into the Light of my awareness.

Being Honest in my Self Observations is an art I 'began to cultivate' about 15 years ago at a time when my own healing work had accelerated. This was not easy or fun....to stay present to the parts of me that I had repressed, rejected and judged ....that were showing up.....

I've become truly skillful at Honestly Observing and Acknowledging these shadow parts with a Heart that stays open .....instead of closing my heart and rejecting these parts of me.....
Now as the deeper layers of my shadow and duality rise before me..... it is easier to observe and receive them with an open heart and tenderness for all these broken, wounded parts of me.....coming home......back to my heart.
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I've been following my friend Panache Desai for a few years now.  
Panache writes: It's better to give than to receive. That's what we've been taught so when the donation plate is passed, we drop in a $5 or a $20, when Thanksgiving comes around, we go to the shelter and feed the homeless, and at the grocery store, we donate that extra $2 to the charity of the week. But there's always that nagging feeling that we should be doing more, that we should be on a plane to a starving country to build houses and plant vegetables, or tie ourselves to a tree to keep the rain forests from disappearing.

While these are all noble and worthy efforts, they are often carried out from a place of guilt or shame, sadness, fear or anger. To truly give however is to truly receive - yourself. To gather up all of the parts of yourself and love them, is to find peace through radical self-acceptance. And once you've found that peace, all that's required to make a true difference in the world is to simply allow that peace to emanate from you - and be the change you wish to see in the world.

                                            ************************************************************************

Self Acceptance is A Master Key that unlocks the door to Your Peace, Joy, Prosperity .... to feeling that you do in fact belong here.....that you're okay and worthy and perfectly right.

Much Love and Abundance of Blessings~

Miri

Pioneer For Self Compassion

                 I found Self Acceptance and Self Compassion in my own heart. 

                                   May I help you find them too~ 

         

   Please contact me, hedymiri@gmail.com for your Complementary Consultation   

3/10 God Whispers

Can you hear God whispering in your ear:

Perfect..... You are perfect and exactly as I created you.

Everything.  I don't make mistakes......not one.

You are perfect ... exactly as I created you. 

And I love you... totally.... I AM totally in Love with You
    why do you linger in doubt and self loathing.......         

                                                  Miri Klements

 is a Transformational Coach for
"Women Who Give So Much, Care so much"

               But can't give themselves the kindness, care, attention they give to others

Contact me for your Free Breakdown to Breakthrough Conversation.

2/25  Sometimes I really don't like being vulnerable with you 

I too am one of those who – “Gives Too Much, Cares Too Much”

I used to think it was a wrongness about me - this caring too much giving too much..... it was so hard to say no.

I did not, could not give my self the same time, care, attention and kindness that I had been giving to everyone else.

I was busy giving to so many….and pretty much starving me. Familiar?

At some point it just stopped feeling so good. I found my self exhausted, frustrated with my kindness and inability to say no. I couldn't keep denying me while attending to everyone else. I painfully acknowledged all this, and then judged me.... I was not okay.

I used to think it was wrong to pay attention to me in a caring loving way, to make me a priority, to give to my self, make time for me, to pay attention to and honor my own feelings …. Society calls this selfish….. Familiar?

Then came the exploration into how this all came to be, the healing work for this avoidance of me…..this inability to receive…… this focus on another while denying me….. I’ve explored my psychological/childhood issues, my wounded child, and the healing came…..

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And now a different understanding is coming forth…..the middle way

BOTH ~ AND

This caring and giving so much …. it’s not a wrongness. It’s actually a very beautiful thing – to care so much, to give so much

Just think about it, feel into it…… It is the core of The Feminine – giving, caring, nourishing another, feeling another’s pain... As we engage with life and connect with others, we see how often we lead with our hearts.

We Lead With Our Hearts

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I am caring, a giver, too sensitive …and I was often told I cared too much. Tears come as I type this….. because I never allowed my self to truly acknowledge how beautiful it is to lead with my heart. This resonates so deeply in me….. I lead with my heart…..I have always cared......just like you.

It’s not a badness or wrongness, it can be difficult…..painful….. and yet, if you’re reading this, I am sure you are someone who naturally leads with your heart, who cares first….. it’s true – look…. It’s true – you care …..you lead with your heart…….you care so much…and it’s probably true that you haven't been great at setting boundaries and caring for your self, honoring your own feelings and needs

IT IS A BEAUTIFUL THING TO CARE SO MUCH. TO LEAD WITH YOUR HEART. TO GIVE SO MUCH IT IS A BEAUTIFUL THING TO CARE

Because you feel…… you feel the pain of another and your heart engages….and you want to help. Of course you do ~ thank you for doing what you do.

I grew up thinking I was 'too much." I must have sensed or been told I was too much or perhaps felt my energies as too much for those around me. I tried to hide, damp down, deny and fix my self, my pain….be what others needed….. and then when this didnt work anymore....when there was no more room under the rug or in the closet.......I began to explore so I could heal.... the traumas of childhood…..  healing the traumas of the innocent child.... and seeing that I was so needy for what I was giving to others …..I worked on all this…. Familiar?

I'm not sharing so you feel 'sorry' for me....I'm sharing so you might find your self too in what I write. We're not so different.... Please keep reading - there is something very wonderful coming out of this 'imbalance' and pain.....

Maybe you have explored your own patterns/issues around setting boundaries, being an enabler, can’t say no, the fixer, the giver who can’t receive…... Yes to all the negative labels we have for this ……FOR CARING

It is time NOW TO BEGIN TO BE IN ACCEPTANCE OF OURSELVES instead of rejection and stop buying into the belief that you need to change or fix you because you are ‘wrong’…because you are different and don’t fit in ……

In this period of deep transformation I AM discovering how to love and give to me, listen to all the parts of me. I AM truly falling in love with my self….with ALL the parts of my self, yes I mean ALL…..

*** I am not sharing this to talk about me.....the point is to share what is possible for you .... that you can move beyond how you see your self, judge your self, talk about and how you talk to your self.....how you BE in life....what are you creating? How are you vibrating out into the world?

Last Friday was a special day – I met my Shame…..and for the first time in my life - I met Shame with an open heart. I allowed, opened to her and loved Her, Shame. Wow and unexpected. It felt so natural.

No one likes it when we feel shame. We want to push it away, deny this feeling.

And the acceptance of shame just happened…… imagine….Grace……all the parts of ourselves we have been rejecting and running away from…. Imagine being able to turn back and say I see you, it’s okay, I know you’re here….you’re here for a reason….and you are moved out of your mind and into your heart. Your heart opens to shame or whatever else you have been rejecting and resisting….. instead of pushing it away.

It just happened….this turning to shame with an open heart…..That’s why it is called Grace. To just see shame tenderly with the softness of my heart.

Grace happens….. you can’t make change happen – it comes of its own accord. AND you can do things to prepare and nurture the field for its arrival.

This heartful acceptance actually bubbled up out of a very uncomfortable incident where I was experiencing lots of shame. I wasn't able to do much except be in the discomfort ... feeling so much shame... and then it shifted. ...and there was only tenderness and being present ..... What Freedom!

If I can do it – you can too! It is possible to cultivate Presence/resting in The Divine/I AM and open to these parts of ourselves with tender heartedness. I can help you if you're wanting this too….. this movement away from rejection and self loathing and self criticism into more acceptance, more of your tenderness for you….

It IS possible…..and dare I say, it is our destiny to begin now to open our hearts to ourselves, too all parts of ourselves! The loving, caring, tender heart is present…. We’ve given it to everyone else.

It is time now for self acceptance, for cultivating tenderness with our selves, with all of our selves....just one part at a time.

It may not be shame for you…..it may be jealousy, anger…… I grew up and lived most of my life as someone who was deeply sensitive yet also disconnected from what I was actually feeling if that makes sense. When we feel overwhelmed and helpless as a child, our coping mechanism is to disconnect, to push down and away these feelings that are overwhelming to the child. It is a healthy coping mechanism.

I digressed…..back to Giving and Caring too much about everyone else. It is true – while I gave to every one around me….alot….. I did not give that same care, attention or kindness to my self. Instead I was super critical of me and had a lot of fears around being authentic, speaking up…..

This shift back into the balance of caring for another AND being able to give your self acceptance, kindness and attention IS EASIER than you could ever imagine it to be.....because it is YOUR NATURAL STATE.

Below are the first steps to OPENING YOUR HEART TO YOU.

Notice, Allow, Observe. Be the Observer of your world….just watch, as if you were watching a movie. Don’t get into the drama or interpretation or judgements. Let the thoughts be in the gentleness of “Isnt this curious. Isnt this fascinating.” Just watching the movie. I like to use the word fascinating when I’m observing. It softens me and helps open and stay present …. lean into what is taking place.

Place your hands, one on top of the other, over the heart chakra in the center of your chest and say I love you to your self…..whisper it over and over….. maybe begin to rock back and forth or sway….

Notice – is this easy, is it difficult to say I Love You to you…. ALLOW any feelings to come up, allow them and be with them. Perhaps you’ll collapse into a puddle of tears and sobs. Maybe you feel nothing…….perhaps because you’ve had to wall up your heartful sensitive feelings. It’s okay. Just be soft with you.

Our world glorifies giving first. We are taught that it is holy to give...and give.... The programming and belief system (bs) is that taking care of your self, receiving is selfish……so when you want to take care of you, set boundaries, say no – there is a conflict. Because your healthy holy inclination is to attend to you…and the programming says don’t.

You may notice you’re uncomfortable because of this conflict between your true desires and natural movements for self care and your programming or belief systems (BS). Be curious …. Heck, I’ve been so uncomfortable being on the receiving end. I”ve been a super giver. Receiving is hard and makes me feel vulnerable……

Look at your childhood and see all the ways your parents, family, adults, teachers reinforced the notion of giving your needs and feelings away for another. NEVER you first…. And perhaps this became NOT YOU AT ALL ......

There is a call on this planet now... For Self Acceptance and Self Love

OK – I have to stop here. This was a lot to receive..... You're probably swirling with the info and the energies. I hope you will take a break...maybe come back and read it again....

I want to leave you with this. It has NOT been a mistake. Nothing - not you, your life, your ways, your choices and path. God doesn’t make mistakes. Everything unfolds in its perfect and natural order. You have NOT ever been Too Much of a Giver.

What if you have been a beautiful heartfull giver AND now it’s time to open your heart to your self. That's all AND we can do this.....because we see that we already know how to love......

This IS The Divine Feminine in Balance...in HER GREATNESS . She allows everything. Her unconditionally loving heart is totally open to all of the creations here.

The Divine Feminine is rooted in Self Care because she has the quintessential knowing that it is Natural AND Holy to care for one self….. Both Giving and Receiving. She replenishes her well and gives from this abundance. It is Holy, it is a holy necessity to care and give to one self.

Let us all, men and women, begin to nurture and embody this missing part of The Divine Feminine…… to understand that to say YES to Herself/Himself, to listen to and care about one self is a most Holy Act.

Cultivate resting in the Greater Part of you….The Presence/Higher Self/I AM / Divinity of You AND please allow your self to begin to care for you…..as She/He cares for her self and all creations.

Think about the examples you are setting for your children, your family and friends........both the girls and the boys. Would you be happy if your daughter treats her self the way you treat and care for you?

I AM here for you…..to support your releasing the old patterns, beliefs, struggles. I welcome your comments, questions. Please email me hedymiri@gmail.com

Sat Nam ~All IS Well ~Much Love
Miri

                                                       Miri Klements

is a Transformational Coach for
"Women and Men Who Give So Much, Care So Much"

But can't give themselves the kindness, care, attention they give to others

and know they just can't do it this way anymore.

Please contact Miri for your FREE Breakthrough Strategy Conversation. Get clarity. Stop beating your self up.