What the Lilies Taught Me

3 Life Lessons From Nature  

                    Lessons 3, 2 and 1 are below,  in this upside down order.

Lesson #3 is about our FEELINGS... about letting them be as they are, including the feelings of sadness. 

Are you human?  Of course!  Well then - You FEEL! 

                                     It is in our Design to FEEL.    

As I sat looking at the lilies, what came this time was about paying attention and acknowledging that we often feel sad when something ends… when a cycle completes… and that we usually don't know how to allow ourselves the time to feel and acknowledge these natural sad feelings. 

I also saw that even as we complete something or something ends or dies... sometimes we are BOTH sad to let go AND are looking forward to something or someone new.  BOTH ~ AND  For me when my marriage ended after 29 years… and that was fine... there was also an unexpected sadness for something that was completing.

When I moved here from Maryland a few years ago there was BOTH the sadness of leaving the community AND an excitement for what was coming.

Sometimes we have a BOTH ~ AND experience/feelings.

And sometimes there is JUST sadness.

Remember – everything is Holy Perfection unfolding…. Whatever you are feeling is holy and right.  Can you ALLOW and validate your feelings?

Our bodies are about 80% water.  Water represents emotions.  Our nature is filled with all the shades and colors of feelings.
 
Did you grow up with a manual or with parents and teachers who taught you that feeling is a natural part of being human... that all feelings are okay?   

Or did you grow up like me - judging your self as too sensitive, too much, or not enough, for this world…

Can you appreciate your tenderhearted sensitivity instead of shaming your self and beating your self up for this?  Perhaps your parents didn’t know how to help you with your tender sensitive heart… how to support you to be present with your different feelings...

There is much on Forgiving others... What is missing is teaching us how to forgive ourselves... so we can stop holding ourselves hostage... discover how to open our hearts... to ourselves.  So important!!

It is not another’s acceptance that will ‘heal and transform you and your life.'   It is your own acknowledgment and acceptance of your feelings and validation of the beauty and sensitivity of your own heart... that will set you free… to be your unique, magical, amazing self!

It is never too late to open to new perspectives and wisdoms… so we can heal and claim our birthright of JOY, UNCONDITIONAL ACCEPTANCE FOR OUR SELVES and INNER PEACE~

Learning how to give your self The Permission to feel what you are feeling.

Do you need support with your Feelings, with Forgiving someone or Forgiving your self?

Would you like to stop rejecting and hating parts of your self...  and discover how to open your heart… to you.

Would you like new perspectives?  I can help you with this.  Please click here click here to schedule your FREE Discovery Phone Session. 

Trust.  You are always and all ways 
Divinely Guided, Protected and Held in Unconditional Love  Always and All Ways... no matter what 

You know

 you have to feel good about your self

in order to manifest your Highest Potentials and Dreams! 

  Please click here to schedule your FREE Phone Consultation or your session.  

Big HeartHugs, 

Miri                                                                                                           
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Transformation Catalyst        
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www.OpportunitiesForTransformation.com
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Nature is here to nourish us… and to teach us.

Life Lessons From Lilies

Lesson #2 is about comparing.

The first lesson is the blog below this one.

Are you human?  Of course!  Well then ... You compare!  
It is in our Design to compare... We all do it.   

It is part of The Human Design... until you begin to awaken out of it.  

Today I am going to give you some keys to   
 unlock the painful pattern of comparing. 

Comparing is very painful. It is rooted in feeling not enough or okay as we are. We always come up short when we compare. Comparing makes us feel sad, anxious, heavy, frustrated, angry... The mind begins to tell us all kinds of stories...  and we believe them...and then we feel less than, unworthy, not enough, ashamed, not right, jealous, not where we  should be, not_______.   

Fill in your own words. Gosh, as I'm typing this I realize that we are always comparing and judging.  And for sure, we end up feeling heavy and sad or depressed when we compare ourselves to others.  

OR - you feel superior! Even when you compare and end up thinking that you are now superior... please gently realize that this too is coming from a feeling of inferiority.  Your ego has temporarily propped itself up.   

Here is what I was reminded of as I sat with the lilies - Every flower (actually every part of nature) is in its own Different, Divine, Perfect, and Holy place... Feel into the symmetry and perfection. I saw that some of the lilies are still held in a tight bud. Some are complete and dying. Others are in full bloom.  Nothing in nature looks at another and compares.  Imagine... the lily looking at the sunflower and thinking there was something terribly wrong about its 'Holy Design'... only perfection in continuous manifestation...

Everything is in perfect order and flow... adding to the Magnificence, Abundance and Splendor here.  Everything makes its unique contribution... in Divine Right Order and Timing. And you, exactly as you are, are part of this.  Think about it...  no mistakes, nothing wrong... ever...  only... 

~Divine Perfection Unfolding~

What to do about this painful comparing?  Just as you can observe nature in all her forms, variations, and wonders... can you step back a little and observe your self too.   

NOTICE when you begin to compare.  BREATHE... NOTICE... ALLOW...  without judgments and additional commentary. Breathe and Notice the same way as you would acknowledge and allow what is happening in nature. See how nature has gifted you by having you practice being the Observer with her. See how you already look at nature in awe and wonder...  Noticing, Allowing...   Can you bring the same noticing to your human self...?

Breathe deeply. Now bring noticing to your thoughts.  Perhaps you can begin to see how they may well be rooted in fear and untruths... Notice the feelings that arise in your body... BREATHE deeply a few times. SMILE gently and BE SOFT, as you would be with a confused child who is in pain...    BREATHE... NOTICE...  ALLOW...

Every part of Nature lives in its own perfect cycle and flow of birth, life, death and rebirth... and does not compare.  Look around outside - such abundance in form...

We are all different too... except instead of celebrating ourselves, we compare because - we were designed that way... for now...

The Gift of being human is that we have the opportunity to birth new realities.  And we are creating new Designs and Realities now! 

You always did the very best you could.  The pain you felt or feel is so yucky; you just did not know how to deal with it any differently... till now. Because if you are reading this now, and you feel a pain in your heart or your belly... you are ready to birth a new way of being.

Would you like some help?  Do you feel stuck?  Would you like to stop comparing, bullying and judging your self?  

Let's talk.  I have 3 openings this week for Phone Consultations ~ Discovery Sessions with you.  Click here to book yours. It's FREE.  I love being a midwife for the birthing of your Best and True Self.   

Trust.  You are always and all ways 
Divinely Guided, Protected and Held in Unconditional Love  Always and All Ways... no matter what 

You know
 you have to feel good about your self
in order to manifest your Highest Potentials and Dreams! 

Please click here to schedule  your FREE Phone Consultation or your session.    

Big HeartHugs,
Miri

Self Acceptance~Self Love Coach       Transformation Catalyst        Reiki & Medical Reiki Master               www.OpportunitiesForTransformation.com

hedymiri@gmail.com 

Nature is here to nourish us... 

 to teach us.

I bought lilies last week and 

I’ve been learning life lessons from them every day.

 Lesson #1 

Through the Lilies I came to recognize my own impatience,

and to see that it was based in fear.

The lilies then led me into the reminder about Trust and Allowing for
 The Design and Perfection of all of Life. 

To Trust in a Divine Plan and Divine Timing  

Not my plan or my timing...which is my ego's plan and ego's timing.  

Remember the acorn.  The blueprint for it to become an oak tree is already there inside it...  was always and already there.

Just like you and your purpose and your life plan.
Do you really need to work so hard to make things happen?


What are you believing about your self that is not true- 
and this...has been running your life?  

As we move through these strong energies of March and April…. our buried ‘treasures’ are coming up for healing.  I call them treasures because as we learn how to be with our pain and the disowned and rejected parts of ourselves... as we bring them up into the light and open our hearts to these parts of ourselves... we receive gifts that are so much more than we could have ever imagined. 

Trust the Process. Trust in Life and realize that Life is always working For You... bringing you exactly what you need to heal, integrate and manifest your highest potential. 

Trust that wherever you are is exactly where you are meant to be... no matter what it looks like or feels like.  I'm right with you; it takes a lot to stay the course of Trust... and recognize that you are always  

Divinely Guided, Protected and Held in Unconditional Love  

Always and All Ways... no matter what 

You know
you have to feel good about your self
in order to manifest your Dreams and Your Highest Potentials! 

Having a hard time?  Feeling stuck?  Would you like some support, guidance, energy clearing, rebalancing?   Please click here to email me and schedule  your FREE Phone Consultation or your session. 

Big HeartHugs, 
Miri                                                                                                                                                   
Self Acceptance~Self Love Coach       Transformation Catalyst        Reiki & Medical Reiki Master               www.OpportunitiesForTransformation.com
hedymiri@gmail.com 

It was about being strong ~ Now it’s about being honest

                       

It’s no longer about having to keep it together and having to present an image to the world...  a facade, your mask that says I’m good, I’ve got this…

It’s about discovering how to let go…
of every thing and every way you thought you needed to be...
of every thing you think you need…
 
It’s about realizing that the things you hold on to for safety…
really aren't keeping you safe.

Love ~ God ~ The Divine  ~ The Force ~ Our True Nature
Is our True Source 

We are waking up from a dream…
That we have worked and played so hard to keep intact
 
Letting go, surrendering…
 creating space for what wants to arise and grow and shine in you now…      

It's more like 

Holding On AND Letting Go
             are happening at the same time    

Breathing         Baby Steps    

Now there is space for this New...  For this very Truth of You
This Kernel of Light that has always been there...
It Is Time and It Is Happening

It feels like fire and destruction... It is
And all is held in a forcefield of 

FIERCE AND COMPASSIONATE LOVE

It is Time. The door is opening… See that it is not you that is opening the door. It is being opened... Breathe Gently as you realize this…  The door is opening now and you are looking around in the basement of your life… where you have put so much stuff!  I know many of us have been clearing for awhile... and now we are going deeper and into the hidden places that want to be cleared out too.  Ah, this wild crazy human existence… 
                      
So much stuff that covers our hearts… that closed the door to your heart

Come to the sea and surrender it all.    Breathe...  Allow
Allow and Receive what the sea brings back to you on the next wave

 ~Holding Tight AND Letting Go~ 
 Its okay to do it this way... 

We are not the stories we have constructed about ourselves… not this persona

We are being washed.  Breathe   Allow

We are being cleansed and purified in the Fire.   Breathe    Allow    Open

 We are LOVE
WE ARE THAT LOVE          WE ARE THIS LOVE

We are LOVE playing in form

We are LOVE weaving itself, delightfully dancing with itself here

 LOVE

LOVE    I AM Love    You Are Love    We Are Love    LOVE 

Hear the whispers in every cell of your body... awakening, stretching into 

The very Truth of You.   Remember~  I AM calling you Home  

YOU ARE LOVE       I AM LOVE

 Let it burn...  let the fire of LOVE burn away all the delusions and illusions it created.  It is happening… all the pain is coming up now because it is ready to be burned up.  We are being consumed by the fire of LOVE.     

Allow…    Holding Tight WHILE Letting Go -
YOU ARE PERFECT

I AM in Love With You

Transmission through Miri Klements 3/5/16

Kindness For Everyone Else,  Except Me

It is so easy and natural to be kind and available for someone who is in pain...  to be compassionate with someone else’s wounds and traumas… Yet when it came to being tender, loving, generous, patient, compassionate with my self, my wounds, my own traumas… How easily I dismissed my self.  How impatient I was when I spoke to my self. How lacking in compassion I was with my self… How unkind I was with me.

About 15 years ago Spirit stopped me and showed me that in spite of my desires to transcend all my pain and suffering ...  I had to to come back … to all the parts and pieces and feelings that I had pushed under the rug because I didn’t know how to be with them before... didn’t have the support needed to do things differently at the time… 

I had disconnected from, rejected these parts of my self... and moved on, or so I thought.

"I'm good.  I'm fine. I got it covered," was my mask to the world, and to my self!                                         

And then the time came when I had to turn back and find the way to be with these parts, these feelings… to accept my self…  all the parts I didn’t like, felt ashamed of, hated, was scared of facing... 

I had to come back to the basics in order to truly and completely heal – self acceptance, self kindness, self compassion, self forgiveness. 

I remember finding Byron Katie’s Book – ‘Loving What Is.’ You must be kidding… ‘Loving What Is!’  I scoffed at the title. I can barely acknowledge and accept what I see in me… what is now starting to bubble up from under the rug where I had pushed everything.

I surely couldn't love what was showing up... and so I began much more simply, and with something I could do:  I began with Noticing what was showing up... and breathing deeply over and over so I could stay with this new practice of noticing without running away...

Noticing became Acknowledging … acknowledging what was present with as much honesty as I could muster.  This lives in me…  It was so hard to see my self honestly because I had been able to avoid a lot by shoving it down and disconnecting… and so much shame was coming up along with all these patterns, patterns that actually had helped me to cope... these patterns that I now saw were keeping me stuck and disconnected - from life.

Then Allowing gently showed Herself… Allowing mixed with drops of gentleness for my wounds, difficult emotions and traumas...

The Noticing

The Acknowledging of what was truly there

The Allowing as best I could opened the gates of Acceptance... 

An Acceptance for what was showing up along with a deep kindness, gentleness, compassion towards my self… for the parts of me that were suffering and in pain...   
Unconditional Acceptance

The mean, curt, annoyed, pushy voices in my head that were never satisfied, always condemning... changed to voices that now say "It’s okay sweet angel.  What do you need?  What would you like My Beloved?" 

I began to speak to my self as I would speak to a young innocent child in pain, a child in need, a child who was suffering…  And I finally began to give to my self, and continue to give my self the attention, the acknowledgment, the acceptance, the compassion and generosity I had given to everyone else.

Honestly, I was kind of shocked with my self... with my ability to be present, to become this Loving Understanding Presence to the wounded frightened parts of me… that allowed me to feel so much better inside... and with my self…  Self Acceptance is Powerful...
and I have even more love, kindness and compassion to give to others… to the world.

Now how does it get even better than this!!

Do you feel the Calling... to stop talking to your self, judging and treating your self as you do?  Are you called to begin to open your heart to your Self... because somehow you know that these missing pieces of Self Acceptance and Self Compassion will change everything - your relationships, prosperity, health, feelings of worthiness... yes, everything.

Maybe it’s hard to know where to begin, how to begin…

I can help… because I’ve walked the path.  I know how to get to the other side and I want to hold up the Light for you, to help you remember how to tap into your own innate abilities for Self Compassion, Self Acceptance.  Yes, these are your birthright…
 
Please join me as we Open The Heart of Compassion for Our Selves -             **Workshop in Charlotte details below OR watch for the Webinar coming soon OR schedule your Complimentary Phone Consultation by clicking here to email Miri now

A Workshop For

Self Kindness ~ Self Acceptance

Self Love 

Join us for an afternoon of Gentle Heart Opening Dialogue, Teaching, Meditation, Music and Art that allows for the Warmth and Compassion of your own heart to begin to thaw the frozen places inside your self.                                                                           ~ Welcome Home ~  

When:  Saturday, February 27,  2-5pm
Where:  Body Mind Shift Wellness Center 5200 Park Rd,  Suite 213,  Charlotte
Cost:     $65.
Please click here to email Miri now to register for the workshop 

Big HeartHugs,
Miri

I Can't.  YES I CAN!!!

Mercury Retrograde has completed.  Hallelujah!                                                         

My ego mind is relieved to feel some lightness and movement.Once again I have energy to do things… and even though I remind my self that everything is always in motion and in support of my highest good – my personality/ego doesn’t like how 'it' feels stuck and stalled.  It’s like a traffic jam and you’re just sitting and waiting… 

And how do I love my impatience?  I have several practices for opening my heart.  I've just added Ho'oponopono.  So I settle into my heart chakra and I gently say to this feeling of impatience -  I’m sorry.  Please forgive me. I love you. Thank you.   Ah…. The body begins to soften.                                                                                                  

Noticing my patterns has become my practice.  You can’t change what you don’t acknowledge…  Everything eventually must come out of the dark buried places within us ... and into the Light.  When I first started to notice my patterns, I honestly wanted to run away and reject them again… Oh my goddess; this can’t be me! 

Now… I actually welcome the opportunity to clearly see my patterns, my thoughts and beliefs that keep me in painful limitations, locked up in her/history …   I allow them to come forth ... to my softening, opening heart. 

I notice that the beliefs and thoughts that keep me down are often quite subtle.  I don’t even hear them.  But they are there, running… and they affect my feelings and my actions. 

It’s not Lent  ... and I’m giving up these two words - I CAN'T.

Actually I’m giving up the whole package labeled “I CAN'T.” It’s more like a virus because it infiltrates my life in so many ways and keeps me from moving forward, taking risks, taking the next step, moving into the Miracle Zone.                                                                                                                                                                “I can’t.’   I actually don’t hear it so much as I feel it... and it holds me back… It's me saying ‘no’ to life... automatic reaction... without thinking…  I don’t start a project.  I don’t complete a project.  I stay in, instead of going out.  I delay reaching out to the new person I met.  I don't write that letter. I don’t make that phone call. I don't spontaneously call to say I love you to the people that matter to me when I feel the urge to. I close my heart and turn away...

It’s all about “I can’t”… It’s so unconscious.  I can't becomes all the things I don't do... saying no to life.  It’s a habit and a virus and I’m done with it!

I CAN!  I CAN! YES!  YES I CAN!!

I could write forever about the different ways we unconsciously believe      I Can't, and how it runs our lives and limits us.  

   I can’t change.      I can’t afford that.    I can’t do that; it's not me.           I can't go.      I can't stay.    I can't ask for that.    I can't apologize.    

I CAN     I CAN     I CAN     I CAN     I CAN     I CAN     I CAN     I CAN      

I Can do this!   I CAN have that!   I CAN be like this!   I CAN say that!  I can do amazing things!   I CAN speak up!   I CAN write that book!  I CAN let go and move on.  I CAN have these feelings, because I already do.   

I CAN have what I want!  I Can Be Who I AM!!

We need to stop limiting ourselves. These new energies have brought new wonderful possibilities.  Put down the stop sign. Welcome to the buffet table.  What would you like? I love that we can create new habits, new neural pathways by simply choosing and doing things differently. Like building muscle, repetition strengthens them and puts them in place.  It is that simple! 
                                                YES YOU CAN

You can accept and love your self in spite of ______________

It’s a new moment    Breathe    Smile    Love Your Self     More   Breathe again    Smile    Hug Your Self   

I wrote a Blog about just doing one thing differently…  If you run a certain route every time, run a different way.  Take a new route to work.  Go to a new place for lunch.  If you're always late, be early. When you're thinking about how you can't - stop and say "Yes I can" and do it.  Start by changing just one thing and you’ll actually begin to feel differently.  The patterns of our lives need to break apart.  New energies are waiting to come in. Create the space for them.   Do something different.                        Smile!  You are Loved!   I Love You!                                                                HeartHugs,                                                                                                            Miri                                                                                         

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If you feel stuck and know you want to do things differently this year, 
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